 | I've know my current boyfired for over 4 years, we just recently started to date. (4 months ago) His last relationship went bad when the girl got pregnant... my boyfriend was thrilled hes great with kids, and was excited she was pregnant. (she has a child with a man before my boyfirend) she was on teh pill but had skipped some, and got pregnant by my boyfirned, she didnt want another child, he tried to work things out with her, and was there for her completely, they had a big fight and she left and had an abortion, without him knowing till 2 weeks after she did. it broke his heart, and tore him upside down... it took a while for him to trust anyone again, when he did find a girl he trusted she also had a kid froma previous boyfirend, he could cope with that fact of her havign a kid... and broke it off...he was single 8 months till me... we have a great relationship, we live together also... weve had many talks about the past, and he says howit doesnt want to ever be married or have a child, hes even scheduled an apt to get "fixed" the day after he turns 24, in 5 months.....it breaks my heart when i hear him say this, cause i know he loves me to death, but to knw i wont ever be married to him, its hurting me, id like to in teh future have a child (in the next 6 years). but as of right now i dont think we are ready... what are you guys opions on this? will i have a chance to marry my man and maybe have a child one day? is this just all talk? apts can be cancelled and thats 5 months off.... the reason i ask all this is cause i feel i may be pregnant, but im not sure, i took a home test and it was a dud, didnt show a plus or minus liek it was supposed to, so i have an apt in 2 weeks... if i am pregnant, i dont know what this iwll do to our relationship... its tearing me up inside to know it could ruin us...i love himso much and ant to make him happy, but is this going to freak himout? any help would be gladly taken! thanks! |
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